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A woman whose sister passed away has been left furious after a pregnant friend made the unimaginable loss all about herself – raising concerns about being inconvenienced by flying in for the funeral. 

The unnamed woman, believed to be from the US, took to Reddit’s ‘childfree’ thread with a post titled: ‘My sister died and my pregnant friend made it about herself.’

She went on to explain that her younger sister had died at age 29 from sepsis caused by a rare cancer back on January 30, and that she has ‘been completely devastated as she was my best friend in the whole world.’

But the woman’s grieving process was thrown off when she was contacted by an old friend-of-the-family, named Beth, who happened to be pregnant in addition to having three-year-old son Billy.

A woman whose sister passed away has been left furious after a pregnant friend made the unimaginable loss all about her - raising concerns about being inconvenienced by flying in for the funeral (stock image)

A woman whose sister passed away has been left furious after a pregnant friend made the unimaginable loss all about her – raising concerns about being inconvenienced by flying in for the funeral (stock image) 

The post explained how Beth was apparently flying in for the funeral, even though she wasn’t asked to.

‘My husband warned me that Beth has been blowing up his phone that she needs to speak to me and he gave me a warning that she was probably going to call. Because she flying out for the funeral I thought she had something important to say to me but instead she made my f**king blood boil,’ the woman seethed.

Rather than extending her condolences, Beth began pestering the woman about hanging out with her while she was in town for the funeral. 

‘Hey how are you doing?’ Beth began.

‘That’s a loaded question, but NOT great,’ the woman answered.

Beth responded: ‘Oh totally yeah, I called because I was wondering how long I was going to be on your “banned list” it’s not fair to not speak to me. Did you get the birthday gift I sent you?’

The woman explained she’ had received ‘so many messages to catch up on from all my condolences that I haven’t gotten around to it,’ then repeating that, ‘I’m not doing great.’

Beth chimed back in: ‘Oh totally, I can relate to that. I have so many thank you cards to write to everyone who came to Billy’s birthday party and it’s so much work.’

The unnamed woman, believed to be from the US, took to Reddit's 'childfree' thread with a post titled: 'My sister died and my pregnant friend made it about herself'

The unnamed woman, believed to be from the US, took to Reddit’s ‘childfree’ thread with a post titled: ‘My sister died and my pregnant friend made it about herself’

Next, Beth then explained her travel itinerary, saying she will ‘fly in Thursday,’ and won’t make it to the Friday service but will make it to a second one on Saturday.

‘How are your parents holding up?’ Beth probed.

The woman answered: ‘Not great, imagine if it was Billy who died. How do you think you would be holding up? My parents asked everyone to respect their space at the funeral as they are grieving and don’t want to speak to anyone.’

Beth shot back: ‘Oh totally I would be so sad it would be the worst thing in the whole world. But what do you mean I can’t talk to your parents? I wanna say hi to them I am flying all the way out there for this. Do you guys have Friday and Monday off?’

The woman emphasized, ‘I don’t know, they just want to be left alone and they hope people will respect that. Yes I have Friday and Monday off.’

Beth then pivoted the conversation back to her own schedule: ‘I have Monday off which thank God because having to fly out to this funeral and everything I am going to be so exhausted that I am glad to have Monday off for myself.

‘I hate being away from Billy that this weekend is going to be so much work for me,’ she added of her being temporarily separated from her toddler son.

At that, the grieving sister promptly ended the conversation.

‘I had so much rage from that conversation that my teeth started to chatter I was shaking so much,’ the woman admitted.

Beth then called the woman’s husband to ask ‘what’s up with me because [the woman] seemed mad at her during the whole conversation.’

‘My husband let her know that she could have worded things better.’

But Beth then ‘got mad’ and demanded that the woman needed to ‘understand that she is pregnant and hormonal that she is going through so much.

‘She asked him if she should even bother coming to this funeral if I’m not even going to spend time with her and she can’t talk to my parents,’ the woman further fumed. 

The husband then reminded her ‘everyone’ is invited to come pay their respects, but if she is ‘busy’ then she doesn’t have to. 

Making matters worse, the woman recalled that she’d actually phoned up Beth when her sister was in the throes of her illness – and Beth had hung up on her for crying because the mom had just had a miscarriage two months into her pregnancy.

‘She got mad at me that I was crying to her because she was going through a lot because she just had a miscarriage after being pregnant for two months and that f**ks up a person. Then hung up on me.

‘I will never understand the grief of a miscarriage but I know that IT’S NOT THE SAME, my sister who is a real breathing human dying is not the same as a two-month miscarriage but I am not trying to win medals for some pity competition,’ the woman insisted. 

Other Reddit users were quick to post comments in support of the woman - also expressing shock and disgust and Beth's self-centeredness

Other Reddit users were quick to post comments in support of the woman – also expressing shock and disgust and Beth’s self-centeredness 

The poster also added that Beth had ‘lectured’ her and her husband in the past about not having kids of their own, reasoning that they would make ‘such a great parents.’

‘She makes everything about how the world only matters if you are a mom,’ the woman added of Beth.

‘I never asked her to come and I really want to just tell her that if she sees this as such a burden to not bother showing up. But I just don’t have the f**king energy to.

‘This is why I asked everyone to leave me alone because I knew I would have s**ty conversation like this.

‘Of course my f**king pregnant friend had to make everything about herself and I am so f**king furious. I am going to be cutting so many people out of my life after all this is over,’ pledged the woman.

Other Reddit users were quick to post comments in support of the woman – also expressing shock and disgust and Beth’s self-centeredness. 

One shared an anecdote from after their dad’s death that also involved a pregnant friend – but a much more supportive one.

‘When my dad died a couple years ago, one of my best friends was pregnant. Hell, she even had an exam earlier in the day of the wake.

‘Did she tell me this while I was with him in the hospital? No. She waited until she felt it was appropriate after he died to tell me, and I was happy for her.

‘That is a friend. I don’t know what you got, but it’s not a friend; oh, it’s just so exhausting to fly out? Get the f**k out of here, then don’t do it, if you’re gonna complain.

A second concurred: ‘I am sorry for your loss. Beth is awful. It is not about hormones, that is a personality.’

‘Ask your husband to run interference on the day of the funeral – but I’ll say it. If she corners you, let loose, man. She’s a snake, she deserves no consideration. Be loud, mention how unkind and self centered she is and has been, and don’t let up. Hopefully she won’t try to be an a**hole then,’ the concluded.

Another put it bluntly: ‘Cut that b***h off. That’s not a friend. She wants brownie points for doing the things a friend would do (flying to the funeral), but has no idea how to actually BE a friend.’

And another echoed: ‘I am sorry for your loss. Beth is awful. It is not about hormones, that is a personality.’ 

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