Even though “The Vampire Diaries” wrapped up years ago, the eternal struggle between Stefan and Damon remains. That is the strength of the show. There is no drama if only one brother is the obvious choice. But is Damon actually the love of Elena’s life? The series certainly wants viewers to think so, but in retrospect, it’s arguably a toxic relationship. Once they get together, each sacrifices their sense of self to make it work. Elena, defined by her compassionate nature and altruism, always has to compromise on her ideals. And any time Damon gets the slightest pushback from Elena, he goes on a killing rampage she has to make excuses for. When they are together, they create a codependent dynamic. It is so unhealthy that Elena cannot move on from Damon’s supposed death in Season 6 without erasing her entire memory of their romance.

Is that really relationship goals? Stefan may not be the brooding bad boy that is so popular with fans, but he never made Elena compromise herself. Stefan’s tendency to turn into a Ripper pales in comparison to all the deaths that Damon has caused — remember when he killed Elena’s brother in front of her because she rejected him? Ultimately, Damon and Elena end up together because they are a couple that is full of passion. But it doesn’t mean it’s a relationship young people should be aspiring for.