![A wedding photographer is dividing the internet after sharing a marriage longevity theory that says there are three telltale signs on whether a couple will go the distance. In a TikTok video titled "3 signs a couple may split," Arkansas-based photographer Shayla Herrington relayed a theory she once heard when she worked with a wedding photographer who had more than a decade of experience. "They told me they could always tell if a couple will last or not…I was really interested to hear their theory on this," Herrington explained at the start of her 53-second clip. COUPLE SPEAKS OUT AFTER VIDEO GAME-THEMED WEDDING CAKE TOPPER UNEXPECTEDLY GOES VIRAL "The first indicator is one of the spouses will take more than three family photos without the other spouse," she continued. "This one kind of makes sense to me. You might get a few alone with your mom and dad, but to kick them out of more than three photos just seems a little suspicious." Herrington said the second red flag is when the wedding party avoids talking about the other spouse during get-ready photos or toasts, which might mean "they don’t like" the chosen spouse. "The last indicator is one of the spouses will spend more time with friends or family at the reception rather than their spouse," Herrington concluded. Herrington went on to ask her followers if they agree with the three-part theory and the responses were mixed. NEWLYWEDS CREATE $240 'INVOICE' TO TEACH WEDDING NO-SHOWS RSVP ETIQUETTE: 'IT'S ABOUT INTEGRITY' Several photographers and separated partners agreed that the theory might be rooted in truth. Arkansas-based wedding photographer Shayla Herrington shared a marriage longevity theory that says there are three telltale signs on whether a couple will go the distance. Arkansas-based wedding photographer Shayla Herrington shared a marriage longevity theory that says there are three telltale signs on whether a couple will go the distance. (iStock) "Wedding photographer here: YEP. YEP. YEEEEEPPPPP," one commenter wrote. An anonymous user also agreed, wrote, "Yep. My EX husband didn’t spend time [with] me at the wedding and his groomsmen didn’t even say hi to me at all." "I heard another photographer say if a spouse smushes cake in the other's face it’s a good indication it won’t last because it’s rooted in humiliation," another commenter shared. WOMAN'S LENGTHY, CONSIDERATE BRIDAL PARTY SURVEY GETS PRAISE: 'EVERY BRIDE SHOULD DO' Other TikTok users who disagreed with the theory or felt that it wasn’t 100% accurate discussed their thoughts in the comment section. "I think the photo one is farfetched especially if siblings want a picture all together and the parents and maybe grandparents," one commenter wrote. "It can be more than 3." Shayla Herrington went on to ask her followers if they agree with the three-part theory and the responses were mixed. Shayla Herrington went on to ask her followers if they agree with the three-part theory and the responses were mixed. (iStock) A more forgiving commenter wrote, "The last one is hard because you’re supposed to also be a good host. I spent my whole wedding running around making sure everyone was having fun." "Married 30 years. Hardly saw him at the wedding," another TikTok user shared. "We are confident in each other. No need to cling!" CLICK HERE TO GET THE FOX NEWS APP Herrington told Fox News that most wedding photographers receive a family shot list before the actual wedding day. "[It] includes the portrait combinations the couple would like to do. (Looks like this: Bride + Groom + Bride's Immediate Family) I never stray from this list at any wedding," Herrington wrote in an email. "I think if the list contains a bunch of combinations that don't include one of the spouses that could be in line with the first indicator." She continued, "Most of the time the initial list I'm given doesn't include combinations without one of the spouses. I'd say a majority of the time the bride or groom will decide to stray from that list on the wedding day and may ask for combos that don't include the other spouse." FOLLOW US ON FACEBOOK FOR MORE FOX LIFESTYLE NEWS Wedding photographer Shayla Herrington tells Fox News that most couples deliver a shot list of the family photos they want ahead of the actual wedding day, which tells photographers which images to prioritize. Wedding photographer Shayla Herrington tells Fox News that most couples deliver a shot list of the family photos they want ahead of the actual wedding day, which tells photographers which images to prioritize. (iStock) Herrington noted that she's been shooting weddings for five years and has only seen one couple split up shortly after they tied the knot. "I shot their wedding earlier this year, but I didn't notice any of the indicators I mentioned in that video," Herrington noted. "I think in their case they were definitely in the puppy love phase but once they moved in together after the wedding they quickly found out they weren't compatible."](https://247newsaroundtheworld.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/11/iStock-116763530.jpg)
- Shayla Herrington highlight that excessive family photos without one spouse may indicate underlying issues.
- Avoidance by the wedding party can reflect disapproval of one partner.
- Spending time apart at the reception suggests a lack of connection.
In the world of weddings, the joyous celebration of love frequently conceals deeper issues that may foreshadow future difficulties. Shayla Herrington, an Arkansas-based wedding photographer, has garnered attention for her observations about potential warning signs that could suggest a marriage may struggle to last.
Drawing from her experiences at numerous weddings and insights shared by other photographers, Herrington identifies three significant indicators that could point to trouble for newlyweds.
Quick Facts
| Detail | Information |
| Name | Shayla Herrington |
| Profession | Wedding Photographer |
| Location | Arkansas |
| Experience | 5 years in wedding photography |
| Notable Insights | Signs of potential marriage failure |
Insights from a Wedding Photographer
Shayla Herrington’s understanding of marriages is informed by her extensive background in the wedding industry.
Over the course of her five-year career, she has photographed countless couples on their big day, allowing her to recognize patterns and behaviors that might escape the notice of others. Herrington credits her knowledge to an experienced photographer she once collaborated with, who shared important observations about the longevity of marriages.
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Frequent Family Photos Without One Partner
The first warning sign Shayla Herrington mentions is when one spouse poses for more than three family photos without their partner present. This situation raises concerns, as weddings are generally meant to include both partners in family moments.
Herrington says, “You might get a few alone with your mom and dad, but to kick them out of more than three photos just seems a little suspicious.” Such exclusion could reveal underlying issues in the relationship, suggesting one partner may not fully embrace the union.
Wedding Party Avoidance
The second sign relates to the behavior of the wedding party toward one spouse. Herrington observes that if bridesmaids and groomsmen seem reluctant to mention the other partner during preparation or toasts, it might indicate disapproval. She remarks,
“That’s typical, because they don’t like them.”
A supportive social circle is vital for a healthy marriage, and hesitance from close friends and family members to engage with one partner could reflect more profound relational issues.
Separating During the Reception
The final indicator is when one partner spends more time mingling with friends or family instead of with their spouse at the reception. Herrington underscores the significance of a wedding as a declaration of love and commitment; if one partner chooses to socialize rather than connect with their spouse, it may signal a lack of intimacy. She states,
“If getting married is a declaration of love and commitment to one’s partner, to spend the majority of one’s time apart from the person you supposedly love most might mean something’s wrong.”
FAQs
Q: Are these signs definitive indicators of a failing marriage?
A: While these signs may suggest potential issues, they are not definitive indicators of a failing marriage. Each relationship is unique.
Q: How common is divorce in marriages?
A: Approximately 50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce, with higher rates for second and third marriages .
Q: What should couples do if they notice these signs?
A: Open communication and seeking counseling can help address concerns and strengthen the relationship.
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Last Updated on August 22, 2024 by 247 News Around The World
