So why should lip-locking be banned for three months? Well, on TikTok, dating expert Chantal Heide says that this allows relationship seekers to learn more about the person they are pursuing without being blinded by the act of intimacy. And she may just be on to something. A 2010 study from Brigham Young University found that couples who waited to have sex until marriage had 12% better communication. Now, this might be an extreme kind of constraint to delay sex until after the ceremony and is definitely not what Heide advocated in her kissing video. Nevertheless, the overall gist is the same: transitioning slowly into physicality could pay off well for couples in the long run.
As Heide put it, “It’s a lot easier to teach a good man how to be a good kisser, how to be good in bed than it is to teach a toxic person who’s a good kisser how to be a good man.” She may have struck gold with that theory alone, which makes us consider how we’ve gone about choosing a mate throughout our dating lives.
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